Thomas John DeQuinzio
Born: 03/30/1928
Died: 10/24/2017
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Thomas John DeQuinzio

Thomas John DeQuinzio, age 89, entered into eternal rest on October 24, 2017 surrounded by his two greatest loves – his family and his music. 

He was the beloved husband of Carmela DiPietro DeQuinzio for 62 years; the cherished father of Denice DeQuinzio (NYC); Diane DeQuinzio and Mary Tucker (Tega Cay, SC); Marilyn and Steven Hart (Darien, CT); Thomas and Marie DeQuinzio (Hasbrouck Heights, NJ); and Jeanmarie and Oliver Armas (Chatham, NJ).  He was Pop Pop to the 9 grandchildren who adored him: Thomas, Joseph, and Grace DeQuinzio; Nicholas, Jordan, Christopher, and Sarah Hart; and Maria and Isabel Armas.  He is also survived by countless family members and friends.

The son of Mary and James, Tom grew up one of six children in Jersey City.  In 1945, at the age of 17, he left St. Peter’s Prep to join the US Navy.  He served on board the USS Calvert for two years, and as part of the recovery team in Hiroshima and Nagasaki.  He proudly served his country and remained a great patriot throughout his life, wearing his Navy hat for the next 72 years.

Always a hard-working and devoted family man, Tom worked for Acme Markets in Kearny for 40 years and painted houses at night to support his family.  However, his authentic profession and calling was the clarinet.  He practiced thousands of hours and developed a tone and command of the instrument admired throughout NJ and South Florida.  He also had a smooth singing voice and serenaded thousands of people with his signature song “My Way.”  With his band “Tommy Dee and the Entertainers” he performed at hundreds of weddings and celebrations, and for many years led the Friday night house band at the Casino in the Park. Later, while enjoying a blessed retirement with Carmela (his faithful equipment carrier) at Park Side in Ft. Myers, Florida, he relished the opportunity to play aside world-renowned musicians.  Together they brought the big band music to countless regional music lovers.

Tom composed songs, most notably “Santa Claus is Coming,” a staple every Christmas to all who knew and loved him.  He possessed a quick wit, creating and delivering jokes at split second speed, and he wrote several skits that were featured on “Candid Camera” in the 1960s. He was a great storyteller, creating the characters Monroe and Squeaky, and detailing their hysterical adventures for the pleasure of his grandchildren. 

A man of faith, he was kind and loyal, and will be remembered as a true gentleman.  His was a life well lived, and he will be forever missed by his family and friends.

Arrangements have been made through the McLaughlin Funeral Home in Jersey City.  Viewing will be Friday, October 27 from 4:00-9:00pm, and a Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated at St. Aedan's Church Saturday, October 28 at 10:00am.  Entombment to follow in Holy Name Mausoleum, Jersey City. 

The family has requested that donations in his memory be made to Hope Hospice Heathcare, 9470 Healthpark Circle, Fort Myers, Florida, 33908.


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Uncle Tommy was one of the most gentle and kind spirited humans I have had the pleasure to know. The world is at a great loss with his passing. My heart goes out to Aunt Carmela and all my cousins in this very painful time.
Lisa Flynn
I am so sorry to hear of the passing of your father Denice. Now I know where you get your quick wit from! May your hearts not be heavy as we celebrate his eternal life and the exceptional life he had with his loved ones. Much love, Alethea
Alethea Shepardson
Although we only met a few times, Tom was always welcoming to me and treated me as if we had been lifelong friends. He was a true gentleman. May you Rest In Peace, Tom.
Gerald Evans
I have many fond memories of My brother Tommy. Most unforgettable would be when we all would gather at their house on Christmas Eve for a holiday party."Santa "would be there with his bag of goodies for the children, ringing his bell while calling out "Ho Ho Ho" The children would be so excited. We all knew that Santa was enjoying it as much as the children. Tom was very good to our parents. Even after he had his own family he would come to our house on weekends and help our Father cut the lawn and help our parents with other things that needed to be done. Tom had a warm heart for those less fortunate. He had a great sense of humor, was a devoted Husband and Father, As a Brother, he was the best there ever was.
Dolores Bray
Sending many prayers to all the Family at this time of loss. Keep strong. And remember his will always be in your heart. You all will have many good days and some sad days. Just keep strong in the Lord and he will guide you all.
Michelle Fredlund
I'm so sorry for your loss. May you find comfort from the words of our Heavenly Father, JehovahGod, found in 2 Corinthains 1:3,4 and remember the hope we have in the fulfillment of His promise in Acts 24:15 of the resurrection. With my sincere and deepest condolences.
I have wonderful childhood memories of Uncle Tom!He was such a kind soul so nice to us kids!Many family gatherings we had!FUN WAS had by all!Rest in peace Uncle Tom!
Lorna Willis
Our deepest sympathy to you and your whole family. How wonderful that you have a happy and loving life to look back on. He sounds like he was a great guy. Love, Mary and Hank
Mary Koskinas
Dear Tom and Marie, Deepest sympathy for the death of Tom's father also to Carmella it is always so hard to lose a loved one and I am sorry that I never met him. Irene
Irene Gunnell Falberg
Carmella, Denice, Diane, Marilyn, Jeanmarie and Tom, Please accept my sympathy on Tom's death. I was so sorry to read of it on Facebook tonight. He was a wonderful man, husband and father and I know you all will miss him deeply. I'm so sorry that I will be unable to make the wake and funeral, but I do want you to know that you will be in my prayers as you deal with this great sorrow.
Jane Albert
So many wonderful memories growing up in Jersey City. Hewas a special cousin and member of the DeQuinzio clan. Always a kind gentle man and such fun. He always sang ‚??Mama‚?? in Italian to our grandmother which was always beautiful. Our love and prayers to all his wonderful family Tom, thanks for the memories. Tony and MaryEllen Gaspich
MaryEllen Gaspich
Proud of you Tom. You've lived a good life.
I loved Toms music danced to it with his special sister Dolores . Gaylord Hendrix I will miss him.Heaven has anew friend.
Gaylord Hendrix
Q. and Family; my condolences on your father's death. He sounds like a wonderful and talented man. Rest in peace. Regards, Fred
Fred Yosca
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